Tuesday, April 23, 2013

In This Age of Technology

I absolutely LOVE this boy!!
This past weekend we spent the weekend at the JW Marriott San Antonio Hill Country Resort & Spa. It was for a Verizon Winners Circle event honoring all the top sellers for 2012. Beautiful resort and a wonderful get away. Friday night there was a welcome event on the back lawn. This is us. Me and my new boots, a dress and my handsome cowboy.
Friday night all fancy in my boots!
 Saturday, we had a scheduled event in Gruene, TX for antiquing and then wine tasting at the Dry Comal Creek Winery. It was an absolutely beautiful weekend and perfect for walking around a quaint little town in Texas. As you can see by the pictures above, Allan wasn't completely sure about the whole wine tasting. However, when we were leaving, he had a glass of wine in his hand. He did find one he liked.
Wine tasting at Old Colver Creek
   Saturday night was Casino and Awards night. I have been to many corporate events with Hilton and I've had some great times. I will admit, I loved the whole casino theme and I don't even gamble. There was food and drink and free poker chips to play Black Jack, Texas Hold 'Em and tokens to play the slots. The whole weekend was much appreciated and lot of fun.
Saturday night dinner and fun!
As I think back on past relationships and my current one, it's come to my attention that people tend to spend more time texting sentiments to each other and talking on the phone about life stuff and not as much time as they should talking face to face about deep feelings. We are all recovering from some rough relationships - or most of us I would guess. I mean, how vulnerable do we really want to be with each other? How do you really grown to trust each other? There are things we can all work on in relationships, right? I heard the below list on the radio this morning and I have to say, we have a VERY good start to our relationship.

1. Share responsibilities: Four out of five happy couples share decision-making . . . two out of three share financial decisions . . . and two in three split chores evenly.

2. Have lots of sex: Three out of five couples said they have sex at least twice a week . . . one in three have it at least four times a week . . . and 16% of couples do it EVERY DAY.

3. Be affectionate when you're NOT having sex: 69% of happy couples kiss each other and show affection several times a day.

4. Be honest: 70% are always honest with each other . . . and don't even tell little white lies.

5. Stay in shape: Three in four couples say it's important to be in shape . . . and 18% say their partner's physical appearance is the thing they're most attracted to.

6. Don't talk about politics: 37% of happy couples say they NEVER talk about politics . . . and another 47% rarely talk about it.

7. Be the same religion: 71% of happy couples have the same religious beliefs.

8. Communicate: 72% have in-depth conversations about work . . . life . . . and family on a regular basis.
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Monday, April 15, 2013

This is the world we live in.

I worked from home today because the power went out at my office building about 30 minutes before I got there. I work on the 6th floor so I waited in the lobby for direction because I didn't want to walk up six flights of stairs to be told to go home and have to walk back down - in heels. It was already getting hot according to a coworker I saw on my way in. She had been up there and was headed home. So home I went and sat and watched TV and worked on my laptop.

The first "Breaking News" story was about a high speed chase in Dallas. Apparently this guy shot a killed a pregnant woman. She and the baby died at the hospital. I sat in shock as this car weaved in and out of traffic, just praying they didn't hit anyone....and they didn't. They as in there were two people in the car. We found this out when the car ended up back in the same neighborhood it came out of and someone jumped out of the car and went one direction and the driver jumped out and ran into a house. The news quit reporting on it per the police request and I still don't know how that ended....because someone set off two bombs at the Boston Marathon.

Then I go to Facebook and it's just a constant flow of information about the explosions from pages I follow all the while I have the news on. I am drained and am hoping Dancing with the Stars comes on at 7:00. These are the days I hate Facebook and think about deleting my account for a while. If it's not the election, or gay rights and marriage equality, it's an atheist friend wanting to start an argument over God. Yes, I could hide him or I could just not go on Facebook but I don't have the discipline to stop. Sad, but true. I keep in touch with a lot of people through Facebook and I like to stalk - always wishing for that train wreck to happen today. I certainly wouldn't want to miss that!

I've been pretty good about staying out of arguments and if the rebuttals to the status updates gets too big, I will hide them from my news feed. It's social media. This is the world we live in. There are bad people, there always have been. They do bad things and it will most likely always turn into something political. We have a black president for the second term in a row. I see people saying that this is his chance to make things right. These are the SUPER right winged Texans I'm talking about. Of course they hate him just for the fact that he's black and democratic. And it makes me feel embarrassed for my birth state. It's the same with marriage equality and any other horrible act like the shootings in Connecticut. This is our world. I'm sorry it's like this but this is the world we live in. Have I said that yet? 

I'm not saying lay down and take it and of course you can voice your opinion, but know that it's just that - an opinion. There's a saying that goes, "Opinions are like buttholes....everyone has one." Don't expect us to all agree with you. If you're going to put it out there, take the criticism. My atheist friend is a good example of someone who can do that. He can debate like no one I've ever seen. I like that. But he also knows exactly where I stand and I don't debate so I won't argue with him. I just respect his opinion.

I do wish the world was a better place, but, as I remind myself often, Adam and Eve ate the apple (I won't point blame, lol) and therefore, we have evil in the world. It's just getting worse.

Let's all remember what Mr. Rogers' mother told him so many years ago. "You will always find people who are helping."
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Doing Things Seperately....

The sign said not to climb but I'm a rule breaker. I didn't go that far up though!
When you're in a relationship, it's always good to have time apart doing things with your friends, right? Yes. It's just harder to do when you live 3 hours apart and don't see each other that much anyway. So, when Allan mentioned to me months ago that April 12th was race weekend, my heart kinda sunk a little. Not gonna lie. I looked at the calendar and realized that that was one of two weekends in April that my youngest would be going to his dad's and that he was going to be at NASCAR with his friends. Then I secretly prayed to God that he wouldn't ask me to tag along. It's not my thing. Not even one of those things I would do just because it would be spending time with him. Not on my bucket lists A, B or C. 

Instead, I called up my best friend, Missy, and said, "Hey, wanna go to Paris with me April 12th for the weekend and go antiquing?" To which she said, "He!! yeah!" So we planned it. I got us a room at the Hampton Inn Paris (don't be jealous!) and we were set. We were both in desperate need of some time away from our home lives. No dogs, no kids, no parents, no boys - not that we don't love our boys 'cause we do and we missed them bad, but you know.....

The week before we started looking for things to do in Paris, TX. It's a fun little town that I had been to many times, but not really spent a lot of time touring. We were lucky enough to be there the weekend of the April in Paris Wine Fest. Unfortunately, we didn't know about it until we were there and saw all the signs about it. However, we will be making plans to go next year and hopefully with the boys, who knows! It was a Friday night thing and we could participate in that we paid $1 for a taste of one of the wines. If you wanted a whole glass, it was $5 (still not bad!) but it wasn't in one of the fancy special wine glasses you got if you signed up ahead of time.

On to things to do in Paris, TX - you definitely have to go see the Texas Eiffel Tower. That's me with the tower at the top. It's just a cool thing to see. And next to it is the Red River Valley Veteran's Memorial. It's a very well put together memorial for those veteran's from Red River County. Then there is the Jesus wearing Cowboy Boots statue in the Evergreen Cemetery. This was interesting in that there is a headstone with Jesus carrying a cross and he's wearing boots. The story behind it sort of weirded me out since it's rumored that Mr. Babcock was really an atheist and this was sort of his jab at religion. Click on the name above to read more.

I agree with the article. I think he looks more like an angel. That's why we drove by twice before we realized this was the thing we were looking for.

A few other things we did around town was check out all the antique shops in the square, see the fountain, eat at a few good eating establishments (Jaxx's Burgers and Time Flies were two) and enjoy a beautiful evening. 

Paris at sunset (Texas, not France!)
Saturday, we took a trip down 82 into Clarksville, stopping at Alida's Antiques in Blossom along the way. She's a little bit priceier than places like The Cedar Chest in Paris, but she has a TON of stuff and will always make you a better deal than the price that's on there. The drive from Paris to Clarksville is about 35 miles, but if you love looking at antiques, it's well worth it! We went around the square in Clarksville and checked out all their antique stores, actually bought a dress (GASP) for this weekend at Vintaj Cowgirl on the square (I can't find a good website online so no link, sorry) found a few great things and then went on to visit Allan's mom. Oh! I also bought a pair of boots. Here is me in the dress and boots (I know. I need my girdle on. Get over it!)

So thre you have it. A good list of things to do while you're in Paris, TX. I hope it helped you because I had a hard time finding one good place that gave us good direction.
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Thursday, April 4, 2013

Be Happy and Thankful

I found this saying on Facebook the other day and it's really hit home this week. Work has gotten busy, which is great, I had counseling this week and I got to see the guy this past weekend. I have really been working on just getting to this place where I can live NOW and not in all the "what if's" I've taxed my brain with lately. It's a constant struggle to stop myself when I start going down the future trail. I am so on guard not to get hurt like I've let myself in the past that I have robbed myself of loving where I am right now.

When I get a text from you know who just telling me "Luv Ya Baby!" it totally melts my heart. Or the one that says "Missin'  you!" Wow. It just makes me smile so big. It's huge for a guy to reach out like that. HUGE! Instead of me wondering if he's going to bail on me one day, I need to (and am learning very quickly to) love where we are right now, appreciate every little aspect of our relationship and just love him and not waste any more time wondering.

I also finally watched the video to P!NK's new song "Just Give Me A Reason". I had heard the song many, many times and thought it was about a couple who had grown distant and was trying to make their relationship work. Then I really listened to the words and realized it's totally me with Allan. I'm her, freaking out thinking their amazing relationship won't last and he's there saying "Where did this all come from? We are fine! We are fine!" Here, take a watch and a listen......(here are the lyrics)

And this is the happy couple this past Easter weekend at the family wedding. It was a beautiful place in McKinney - Heard Science & Nature Center.

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Monday, April 1, 2013

These Are the Things I Think About.......

Preparing for the future - i.e. that moment in my life when I don't have any children at home that are dependent on me and my income and the moment I don't get child support anymore and will be living strictly on my own ability to make money. Let's be honest, as a single mom who didn't work full time once baby no.2 was here and then went back to work full time once I was divorced, I wasn't exactly able to just jump right back into the workforce and get a fabulous job. I had to work my way up the "corporate ladder". And while I have a great job, some of my friends who've worked all their lives would cringe to make what I make. The child support was a huge help when I was first divorced. Now it just makes things comfortable and I like comfortable.

So, enough about my finances - on to grandchildren. Yes, grandchildren. It not that I want them now, but I do look forward to the day my children get married and have their own families - in that order please. For the first time ever, all my older children have a significant other and seem to be very happy and compatible. But here is where my brain goes (after I see how happy and compatible they are) "I could end up with some amazingly beautiful grandbabies!" My kids are beautiful to begin with (bias much?? YES!) and then to pair them with someone who has beautiful features and is attractive. BINGO! I may hit the jackpot. And typing that all out just made me sound completely judgemental on the not so attractive people. Sorry 'bout that. Wasn't intentional. This is how my brain works. I didn't say it was politically correct.

My middle son has been with his girlfriend for about a year and a half, my oldest son has finally found someone that seems to be a great fit and my daughter just got into a relationship. I am in NO way rushing them or encouraging them to get married. More importantly, I just want them to be with someone that makes them happy and right now, they seem to have found those people and it's a good thing. That's all I'm sayin'! I do expect to have my fair share of grandchildren one day though. I don't care if it's 10 years from now or what, just not like within the next year. A lot of my friends are alread grandparents and some have been for a while. Mine will just be prettier and more beautiful!

I was looking at pictures of my kids and their significant others but then thought twice about posting them on here. I was also thinking what brought on this topic for my blog today. I was at a family wedding this weekend. This was the brother of the couple that got married in November. That bride was 19 and pregnant. This one was 20 and not pregnant but still....20. Now I can't really talk too much because I was 21, almost 22. I've heard the average age of first marriages now is like 27, which will probably be my kids. I guess, even though I was married at 21 and had my first baby by the time I was 23, three kids by the time I was 27, I am still amazed at how young people are getting married and having babies. I survived and they will too. My outcome wasn't so great with the divorce and all. I just hope these couples can survive and have a better start than I did.

I think I'm done rambling.....for now. Happy Monday. April Fool's Day. Whatever.
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