Friday, November 25, 2011

What are YOU thankful for?

This is my family for whom I am very thankful!
Thanksgiving 2011

This year, Thanksgiving was a really nice experience for our family. It was just me and the kids and a friend of my daughters. Last year, I proposed to the ex that, since the kids were getting older and the whole "my Thanksgiving, your Christmas" thing was kinda going out the window, we should come to an agreement on how to split the holidays so that they aren't torn between the homes anymore. I have the kids on Thanksgiving for lunch and then they go to their grandparent's house with their dad for dinner. At Christmas, they spend Christmas Eve with their dad and Christmas Day with me. We will see if that works out this year, but so far it's been good.

I wasn't really feeling the holidays this year. I was glad to have the time off work to sleep in and just do what I wanted, but as for the celebration of whatever, I wasn't feeling it. But, when I woke up on Thanksgiving morning and I knew my house was overflowing with kids, I felt so full in my heart. There is nothing more that I love than to be a mom, having my kids around me just makes me feel complete. I look forward to the day that there are even more at my table - partner, friends and grandbabies. The conversation is so nice and easy. No tension. We all get along and can tease and play around and enjoy just being together. It's a nice place to be.

This made me think of something that was going around on Facebook. It was a cheesy thing about telling something you are thankful for every day in the month of November. Not many of my friends participated, but I have to say, some of them were really digging when it came to what they were thankful for. (Sorry if you participated and are now offended by my comments.) Then there were the ones who skipped a few days and then made up for it. Really?? I am thankful for a lot but I don't feel thankful every day, just being honest. Everyone is thankful for the same thing, kids, husband/wife, mom/dad, house, Jesus, etc. etc. I would have liked to see something original but, that's what that was intended for, I don't think.

Shouldn't we just be thankful for whatever we are going through in our lives, good or bad, because it makes us who we are? It makes us stronger and wiser and better - if we learn from it, whatever "it" is.
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Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Where is the Maturity?

Why are we such an immature society now? Wasn't there a time when we didn't think and act like a child past the age of oh, say, 12? Ok, maybe 18, but really....Once we get into the "adulthood" of our lives, shouldn't there be some part of us that starts to think like an adult? I just wonder what has happened to the idea of bringing up adult children?

Me at the age of 15.
The majority of the people I am around on a daily basis are under the age of about 35. Now, I am only 44, so it really doesn't seem like that big of a deal. But, OH what a difference a decade makes. I am raising teenagers, I get that. There are many days that I feel like I am in a sorority every time I leave the house Monday thru Friday. Oh, and I didn't get accepted in the group. I am obviously the outsider.

Looking out at the world through friends, Facebook, the church I have attended, it just feels like it's really, truly become a Me, Me, Me world and it really makes me sick. It's not what I want my children to learn. They should be people who give back to others, not want and expect everything to be given to them.

I remember a couple of years ago, I said to some of my friends how I wanted the kids and I to go feed the homeless for Christmas. They said to me, "If my mom had done that to me when I was there age I would have been so pissed!" I want to believe I've raised better kids than that. They definitely know they done want for anything. They do know that they are very lucky to have two parents who love them. We may be divorced, but we would both do anything for them. Would they be ok with feeding the homeless on Christmas? I don't know, but I would hope they could appreciate that.

Dear God in heaven, help us figure out a way to overcome this selfishness and think of others over ourselves.
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Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Frustrations of Single Friends

This picture just cracked me up. And it says a lot about single people.
There comes a time in a single person's life when they realize what a jerk they've been to their friends - or one can hope, right? I know in my single life, I have caused a few of my friends to have the urge to seek out a brick and just about hit themselves on the head with it because they can't get through to my desperately pathetic brain. To them, I have and will continue to apologize.

In the last, oh, seven years or so, I have had many, many women, mostly just acquaintances, come to me for relationship advice. There weren't too many that made me want to grab a brick, but there has been at least one. The others took my advice or didn't, but they managed to figure out what they needed to. It was certainly a learning for me that showed me what I would love to do if I could ever just change my career path without going to college. I truly feel it's my passion to help broken women AND men along in their journey to be happy with themselves and NOT be in a terrible relationship.  I have certainly had my own very long and rough journey. Sharing that with others makes me happy and crazy at the same time.

When my friends and family try to give me advice, I usually won't listen. There was a time when I listened because I was new to the "game". I am certainly a veteran now, no need to give me unwanted advice anymore, but thanks. I honestly think I have finally figured myself out (as much as possible anyway). I have taken my stupid mistakes and am really trying to learn from them. I don't date right now. That means I am not on any dating websites actively seeking out men to talk to. Nor do I come on to anyone, not that I ever did, but I'm still not doing that. I am a flirt, but I always have been. Although, in my 40's, I'm not really feeling as flirty as I did in my 30's.

Here is a fabulous article that was sent to me by a single female co-worker. I think it really says it all. It's title says it all. Enjoy.
A Message to Women From a Man: You Are Not "Crazy"
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Monday, November 21, 2011

Very Proud 4th Generation Texan, Thank you very much....


Have you known someone who constantly complains about where they are living? Someone that is either not from the state or has lived here all their life and just won't move? There is more than one person "in my life", and I use that term very loosely, but none-the-less, they are in my world somehow.....anyway, they complain about living in Texas. Get out. That's all I ever want to say. Leave. There's the door. It opens and will hopefully not hit you in the ass on the way out. Why live here if you are miserable. Make plans to move, and the quicker the better, because this is my state and I am damn proud of it.

Yes, it gets WAY too hot in the summer and the weather is extremely unpredictable, but you should have read that in the brochure before you moved here. It's not a secret. Anyone who has lived here for any length of time can tell you that. It's joked about constantly. What's the saying? "If you don't like the weather in Texas today, just wait until tomorrow. It's bound to be different." This will cause allergies and colds that you never thought you were supposed to get (lovely "summer colds") but it comes with living in the greatest state in the United States of America.

Of my four children, my oldest has told me that he doesn't plan to live in Texas his whole life. It makes me a little sad, but I am always happy to have a place to go visit and people there who will want to see me coming. I will just always reside in Texas....well, unless some hunk of a rich man comes along and sweeps me off my feet once Jonathan is in college. Then, and only then, will I have any reason to actually move away from the state where I was born.

I actually live blocks from the house I lived in when I graduated high school and my ex-in-laws live in the same house they bought when they moved here from New York in 1971. My older kids have all graduated from the same high school as their father and I. To me, that is something to be very proud of. So to those of you who are miserable living where you are living, move or shut up about it already. No one cares and it just makes you look like more of an unhappy person than you already do. Thank you. That is all.
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